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[meg-17]

mom made this rule that i wasnt allowed in my room with my bf...well um i broke it...we didnt do anything wrong just kissing. i swear. but anyways we got back out into the living room and mom starts dissing my bf on the phone to i believe was her bf i honestly dont know who it was but i sent him home right after that, i didnt want him hearing it. so mom came out to talk with me and i said i sent him home cause she was pissed and shes like im not the one breaking the rules and etc...

moms not to keen on us being together right now and im not really sure how im suppose to deal with my situation. shes mad about us breaking the rule and her trust in us isnt very high. am i just to let things cool down?

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[smp130]

Give her a couple of days to cool off and then sit down with your mom and apologize to her for breaking her rules. I don't think you need to stop seeing your boyfriend but it's probably best to not bring him by your house for a few days. You can see him in school right? It can also help your situation if after a few days, you bring your boyfriend by to apologize to your mom as well. Normally teenage guys don't have that kind of courtesy so if your boyfriend does, it would probably help your situation. I doubt your mom would stay mad about this. I'm sure she will forgive you. Just give her time.

[YankeeBob]

Trust is earned by honesty, open ness and conversation.

Trust is lost by one thoughtless act.

If your boyfriend ....lets say......kissed another girl and you heard about it from others. Well. ...

how would you react at first?

would you believe him?

would you trust him if he said "there was nothing in it "?

how would he regain your trust....if he ever could ?

[chrisjackson911]

I know im really late to replie but im going to becuase i want other teens to read thins and understand where everyones coming from.

Anyway, the mom has a right to say what she did. And also the right to make rules. And as teens (yes i am one myself) we are very unhappy. See without rules things would no go good. But i think the room with the boyfriend isnt a big deal. But if she doesnt have trust in you then yes it is a big deal. I reccommend for you to build that trust... yes it will take time. Then i think you need to be a little more responsible and not go in the bedroom. If you really hate the rule then my advice is to go someone else. Dont dis-respect you mom in her own house

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[Village_idiot]

Give her time, apologize for breaking the rules. Both you and your boyfriend. As they've said above.

Once she's cooled down, and when you're ready to, talk to your mom about what your intentions are with your boyfriend and how you feel about him. Being honest about this should help your mom understand where you are in the relationship and trust you a bit more. After all she is being protective of you in making sure you don't get pregnant at such a young age.

Your boyfriend may not be ready for the next step anyways, and if he doesn't intend on doing so perhaps it might be a good idea if you mention it to her as well.

If you're put in a situation where your trust is put into question, always live up to that expectation by abiding by the rules your mom has set. Respect her wishes and don't listen to those who tell you to break those rules no matter how much you want to. Once you're old enough rules tend to relax a bit unless she's very strict and if he really loves you, he'll respect your mom's wishes and wait until you're both old enough.

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