The Friendship Page Advice Forum

[k.warm]

I had just met up with one of my good friends from a couple of years ago and we hung out a lot, but eventually she kept on canceling the plans we made time after time again. I then, started to just talk to her over the phone, but she eventually said she didn't want to talk to me.

It has been half a year since then, i was wondering if she is not mad at me anymore and if i should call her soon to try and talk to her again and reconnect.

[Miss2009]

Hey there,

I know how you feel and i can imagine how much you miss your friend...I have been in that situation myself but mine was for about nearly two years that i lost contact with one of my closest friends. Since she got back to her country i totally lost contact with her..no phone calls, no texting, no emailing, no sending lettings nothing...all i can tell you is patient and wait for them to eventually turn up...I have tried contacting her through MSN, sending her emails but not until around 1 and half years past did i recieve from her a message wanting me to come online so she speaks to me and told me she has been busy with her life and things have gotten hectic and so on...little did i realise i should just let her be and live her life as she wants to be, every now and then she drops in and tells me she is doing ok and so on...so all i am saying is give your friend time on their own for now, do send them a message to let them know you are there for them if they ever want to talk to you..if there is no response then try to forget them but do know that once they were your friends, however as i said they may need time of their own, you never know whats happening in their world these days so be patient and understanding.

Good luck,

~Miss2009~

[alis12345]

yeah deffinately, you should get in touch with them. just see how they are. time might have changed things. if YOU want to talk to them you should. test the waters though, just see how it goes, see what they say. maybe you'll just get chatting again. or if theres nothing left of the friendship you'll know. but your obviously still thinking about it.
hope it goes well!

[Charmelle]

Sometimes life experiences and being away for quite so long with our friends we forget how to relate with them anymore...different exposures and meeting different kind of people and culture may make a difference in your friendship and the things you both do in the past, however, all we could do is to be understanding and start all over again knowing who your friend is as a person, and we know so well that she/he is not bad at all...

[chrisjackson911]

I personally think you should let it go. Why try to bring something back that can hurt u?

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[Bedrock]

I don't think your friend was ever mad at you. I think the friendship just burned itself out. This happens sometimes without any plausible explanation or there could be 100 different reasons. As people grow and change, sometimes they grow apart.

You can try to reconnect, but don't get your hopes up.

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[chrisjackson911]

Yeah

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[Bedrock]

OH yeah

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