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[MissHarper]

I have been with my new boyfriend for just over two months now and it was all going well untill, I went round my friends house with a group of friends and my ex was there.
We was all sitting in the front room listening to music and talking, when he came and sat next to me... I had my coat over my lap and he started touching me and texting me to go upstairs with him... I said no and left. later that night I told one of my close friends who told me that I needed to tell my boyfriend or they was going to, so I did.
He was extreemly pissed off and had it in his head that I had cheated on him when I hadn't I assured him that nothing went on on my behalf and he seemed fine... only last night I was on facebook and my ex commented on my status, so I replied. Now my boyfriend is extreemly pissed off again and there is nothing I can do about it. he knows that nothing will ever happen between me and Jack again so I just don't understand why he keeps on being like this, when I could do exactly the same thing back with his girlfriend. I offered to never speak to Jack again and to delete him from everything if it will make him happy but it won't I feel like their is nothing I can do. I don't want to loose either of them, but if I have to them I am willing to loose Jack to stay with Joe as he is the one that truely makes me happy. please someone help.

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Rochelle Harper♥

[smp130]

Your ex made a move on you and you did the right thing by saying no and leaving. Your boyfriend should not be upset with the way you handled the situation. I think you handled it perfectly and your boyfriend has no reason to be upset with you. He has reason to be upset with your ex but not with you. I don't understand why you want to keep in touch with your ex after pulling a stunt like that on you. It's not fair to your boyfriend to keep in touch with him because clearly your ex sees you as more than a friend and that's a problem when you are in a relationship with someone else. My husband doesn't have a problem with me having male friends but he would have a problem if one of them made a move on me. I hope you understand the difference. Your ex isn't worth staying in touch with. If he was a real friend, he would not have made a move on you knowing that you have a boyfriend. I think you should lose all contact with your ex and delete him from your facebook and phone book. Then you need to let your boyfriend know that you did those things and let him know that he is too important to you to lose over over something your ex did. If he loves you, he should be able to forgive you after that. Good Luck